Peacocking accessories don’t have to be vibrant or obnoxious as described in the best-selling book, The Game by Neil Strauss. Styles may be able to pull off a cowboy hat or boa in a club but, it’s not for everyone. It’s definitely not for me. I utilize subtle peacocking, an oxymoron I’m fully aware of. Instead of wearing colorful clothing, I pay attention to small details. Women have a keen eye for detail. My form of peacocking may not be obvious to men, but it sends a loud signal to women that I have my shit together.
I came up with my own form of peacocking after asking various women what they first noticed about a man. Their answers were completely unexpected. I’ve heard women mention clean shoes, well kept nails, and cologne as the first things they notice. A colorful cowboy hat may get a conversation started but could backfire if the accessory doesn’t coincide with your personality. If you’re shy, like me, giving you a pink boa won’t magically turn you into a conversationalist.
So if you’re like me and don’t want to feel like an idiot, peacocking with cowboy hats, nail polish and boas, take some tips from my favorite peacocking accessories.
Women have a way of subconsciously disqualifying men using tests. These subconscious tests are called shit tests. Women test men through snide remarks or revealing questions and filter out men with incongruent personalities. Simply put, women will give you shit and see how you react. Attractive women have plenty of options when it comes to men and shit tests allow them to quickly disqualify the incompatible ones. Common shit tests are, “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m a lesbian.” Your reactions to their shit test will communicate your eligibility as a suitor. If you can pass their little shit tests you’ll spark attraction and interest. Fail a shit test and you’ll quickly find yourself alone or even worse, in the friend zone. I’ve had my share of shit tests with women but my recent test had me contemplating a retake. Read the rest of this entry »
MrAtticus has been a close friend of mine for about ten years. He was responsible for getting me into the pickup artist community after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend. Since then we’ve been applying seduction techniques on a weekly basis at our local bars and clubs. He’s currently working on a pickup artist forum specifically for pudgy PUAs. Check it out at http://www.pudgypuas.com. Below is his field report from my birthday party in early October. Enjoy. Read the rest of this entry »
Sometimes you have to use all of your resources to score a cute girl. When you’re ballboy Kevin Fennell from the Oakland A’s, you have to give a woman four foul balls, five total, to get a phone number. By the fourth foul ball, I’m sure she felt sorry for the guy. He didn’t even number-close her. Some ballplayer had to send over a fifth baseball with a note asking for her phone number. After giving her four foul balls, bypassing tons of kids begging for a souvenir and after several booing cheers from the crowd, he didn’t think of getting her phone number.
Come on kid! After giving a woman four of anything, I’d be expecting her to do the nasty in the back of my car let alone get her phone number.
There are two things I took away from this story. The first is that women love anything out of the ordinary. Attractive women are approached everyday by the same type of guys. It’s the guys that differentiate themselves from the average ones that walk away with a number. A ballboy giving someone a foul ball happens several times during a baseball game, but giving someone four of them is unheard of. I probably would have stopped at two and asked for a phone number.
The second, was thinking how uncomfortably pressured this woman must have felt to dish out a phone number. Giving women gifts places them in the awkward position of feeling obligated to reciprocate. They’ll feel like they have to be nice to you even if they don’t want to. That’s why almost every PUA recommends never buying a girl a drink. You want a woman to interact with you because she’s into you, not because you bought her a drink.
Becoming a pickup artist isn’t like riding a bike. You don’t learn a few things and are able to perform them the rest of your life. Sure, you might know what to do, but knowing and doing are two different things. Becoming a pickup artist takes consistency and commitment. When I first started, I was on fire. I was approaching women with no fear. My friends would sit in awe as I approached hottie after hottie. I felt like I had the secret playbook for attracting and seducing women. I had confidence but that slowly transitioned into something detrimental. I started to get cocky, and lazy. After a while, I stopped approaching women and started giving myself excuses for not doing so. I would think, “She’s kinda ugly. I’ll Pass.” or “She looks like a bitch.” But all I was doing was making excuses. There’s no excuses when it comes to picking up women. Like Steve Carell said in The 40 Year Old Virgin, if you don’t use it, you lose it.
I’ve been studying pickup artist books, videos, podcasts, ebooks and anything else I can get my hands on for the past 13 months. I’ve made dramatic progress since I’ve started but to be honest, it doesn’t get any easier. You’ll never have the perfect answer to every problem you run into. With enough experience, you’ll build up a mental database of interactions you can pull up for assistance whenever you’re in the field but there’s always a risk that something unexpected will occur. But that’s what makes it fun.
If you want to become a pickup artist, you have to be committed. It’s a long and hard journey. You have to apply what you learn on a weekly basis or you’ll end up going back to your old ways. You have to motivate yourself to get out and approach. On some days, you’ll get shot down and you’ll undoubtingly feel like you’ve wasted your time trying to be something you’re not. As horrible as that may feel, have some comfort knowing that is completely natural. It’s happened to me and it’s happened to every other PUA out there.
Becoming a pickup artist isn’t an easy task. It can take years to make any substantial improvements, but if you stick to it, it’ll all be worth it.
I’ve read several articles and ebooks on day game but never actually tried it, until last week. There’s something intimidating about approaching a woman without a drop of alcohol and the assumption that you’re interrupting her day. At least at a bar or club, you know a woman is there to socialize. With day game approaches, you never know if she’ll be receptive to your approach. So how did my first day game approach go? Read on to find out.
In this nine minute video PUA Mehow describes mixed sets and something he refers to as solo winging. Solo winging is when two or more pick up artists open various sets by themselves to ultimately merge them into a large group. This strategy decreases your chances of being rejected by having multiple sets in one group. If one woman shuts you down, just turn around and game another. Check it out.
Much like a male peacock will display his feathers to attract a female, peacocking in the pickup artist community involves wearing unique clothing and accessories to attract women. Pickup artists, or PUAs, have been attracting women by peacocking ever since the world’s most famous pickup artist, Mystery, coined the phrase a few years ago.
Successful peacocking encourages women to approach you instead of the other way around. If you’ve done peacocking correctly you’ll just have to walk through a club and camp out while women take turns getting to know you. Because you’ve separated yourself from everyone else with edgy clothes and accessories, women will want to figure you out. Is he a rockstar? An actor? But, peacocking takes careful planning to be done properly.
Mystery has his own type of peacocking style. He can usually be spotted wearing a furry black top hat, large goggles, black nail polish, eyeliner, and a black trench coat. But not everyone can pull that look off. The goal of peacocking is not to look ridiculous but to create an extension of your personality through carefully selected accessories and clothes that will entice women to approach you.
I spent this past weekend in the city of sin, Las Vegas. It was my first time partying in Vegas and it definitely didn’t disappoint. People come from all over the world to party in Vegas so it’s obviously one of the finest places to practice your game. The ratio of women to men had to be something like 3 to 1. But to be completely honest, I didn’t open a single set the entire weekend because I didn’t have to. Women were approaching me the every night. In a city where I thought I’d be dwarfed by the competition, I was amazed how many women were approaching me. Usually, I’m lucky if one woman approaches me in a night. Read the rest of this entry »
Johnny Wolf brought up a good question on his blog. He asked, “Why would a woman want to sleep with you?” It’s a simple question that I’m sure most men have trouble answering. It’s probably something many men have never thought about in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »