Becoming a pickup artist isn’t like riding a bike. You don’t learn a few things and are able to perform them the rest of your life. Sure, you might know what to do, but knowing and doing are two different things. Becoming a pickup artist takes consistency and commitment. When I first started, I was on fire. I was approaching women with no fear. My friends would sit in awe as I approached hottie after hottie. I felt like I had the secret playbook for attracting and seducing women. I had confidence but that slowly transitioned into something detrimental. I started to get cocky, and lazy. After a while, I stopped approaching women and started giving myself excuses for not doing so. I would think, “She’s kinda ugly. I’ll Pass.” or “She looks like a bitch.” But all I was doing was making excuses. There’s no excuses when it comes to picking up women. Like Steve Carell said in The 40 Year Old Virgin, if you don’t use it, you lose it.
I’ve been studying pickup artist books, videos, podcasts, ebooks and anything else I can get my hands on for the past 13 months. I’ve made dramatic progress since I’ve started but to be honest, it doesn’t get any easier. You’ll never have the perfect answer to every problem you run into. With enough experience, you’ll build up a mental database of interactions you can pull up for assistance whenever you’re in the field but there’s always a risk that something unexpected will occur. But that’s what makes it fun.
If you want to become a pickup artist, you have to be committed. It’s a long and hard journey. You have to apply what you learn on a weekly basis or you’ll end up going back to your old ways. You have to motivate yourself to get out and approach. On some days, you’ll get shot down and you’ll undoubtingly feel like you’ve wasted your time trying to be something you’re not. As horrible as that may feel, have some comfort knowing that is completely natural. It’s happened to me and it’s happened to every other PUA out there.
Becoming a pickup artist isn’t an easy task. It can take years to make any substantial improvements, but if you stick to it, it’ll all be worth it.