Indicators of interest, or IOIs, are any signals women display, consciously or not, that show she’s interested in you or what you have to say. Most IOIs are pretty straightforward, but many can go unnoticed or misread. It’s obvious a woman is interested in you if she gives you her number, hugs you, goes out of her way to talk to you or smiles at you constantly, but there are several subtle cues that inexperienced guys don’t pick up on. Here’s a quick list of subtle IOIs.
You know a woman is interested in you when she:
- Asks your name or any other personal question.
- Holds eye contact consistently when you speak.
- Turns her body towards you.
- Starts to mirror you physically and verbally.
- Initiates conversation during silence.
- Takes interest in anything you say, no matter how boring it really is.
But what differentiates IOIs from common courtesy? This question came to me after talking with an attractive Asian woman. We talked for about ten minutes while her friends waited by her side. We had a normal conversation during which she threw out several indicators of interest along with several indicators of disinterest or IODs. Indicators of disinterest are total opposites of IOIs.
For example, this girl asked me about my job, my schooling, and my life goals. She turned her body towards me as we talked. She smiled the whole time and laughed at my lame jokes. All these are acceptable and positive IOIs, but she also threw out a couple of IODs. While talking to me, she never let go of her friend’s hand. Some of her answers to my questions were short and she even declined to answer one of my questions.
So was she interested or was she just being polite? As I reflect on our conversation, her IOIs could have been nothing more than common courtesy. I mean, what else are you supposed to do when someone is standing beside you. She probably wasn’t experienced in blowing guys off or too sweet to be mean. Either way, up to this point in my PUA training I’ve focused solely on IOIs as positive signs to move forward. After this, I’ll definitely be observing both IOIs and IODs in order to effectively determine a woman’s buying temperature.
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