Sometimes you have to use all of your resources to score a cute girl. When you’re ballboy Kevin Fennell from the Oakland A’s, you have to give a woman four foul balls, five total, to get a phone number. By the fourth foul ball, I’m sure she felt sorry for the guy. He didn’t even number-close her. Some ballplayer had to send over a fifth baseball with a note asking for her phone number. After giving her four foul balls, bypassing tons of kids begging for a souvenir and after several booing cheers from the crowd, he didn’t think of getting her phone number.
Come on kid! After giving a woman four of anything, I’d be expecting her to do the nasty in the back of my car let alone get her phone number.
There are two things I took away from this story. The first is that women love anything out of the ordinary. Attractive women are approached everyday by the same type of guys. It’s the guys that differentiate themselves from the average ones that walk away with a number. A ballboy giving someone a foul ball happens several times during a baseball game, but giving someone four of them is unheard of. I probably would have stopped at two and asked for a phone number.
The second, was thinking how uncomfortably pressured this woman must have felt to dish out a phone number. Giving women gifts places them in the awkward position of feeling obligated to reciprocate. They’ll feel like they have to be nice to you even if they don’t want to. That’s why almost every PUA recommends never buying a girl a drink. You want a woman to interact with you because she’s into you, not because you bought her a drink.
Becoming a pickup artist isn’t like riding a bike. You don’t learn a few things and are able to perform them the rest of your life. Sure, you might know what to do, but knowing and doing are two different things. Becoming a pickup artist takes consistency and commitment. When I first started, I was on fire. I was approaching women with no fear. My friends would sit in awe as I approached hottie after hottie. I felt like I had the secret playbook for attracting and seducing women. I had confidence but that slowly transitioned into something detrimental. I started to get cocky, and lazy. After a while, I stopped approaching women and started giving myself excuses for not doing so. I would think, “She’s kinda ugly. I’ll Pass.” or “She looks like a bitch.” But all I was doing was making excuses. There’s no excuses when it comes to picking up women. Like Steve Carell said in The 40 Year Old Virgin, if you don’t use it, you lose it.
I’ve been studying pickup artist books, videos, podcasts, ebooks and anything else I can get my hands on for the past 13 months. I’ve made dramatic progress since I’ve started but to be honest, it doesn’t get any easier. You’ll never have the perfect answer to every problem you run into. With enough experience, you’ll build up a mental database of interactions you can pull up for assistance whenever you’re in the field but there’s always a risk that something unexpected will occur. But that’s what makes it fun.
If you want to become a pickup artist, you have to be committed. It’s a long and hard journey. You have to apply what you learn on a weekly basis or you’ll end up going back to your old ways. You have to motivate yourself to get out and approach. On some days, you’ll get shot down and you’ll undoubtingly feel like you’ve wasted your time trying to be something you’re not. As horrible as that may feel, have some comfort knowing that is completely natural. It’s happened to me and it’s happened to every other PUA out there.
Becoming a pickup artist isn’t an easy task. It can take years to make any substantial improvements, but if you stick to it, it’ll all be worth it.
I’ve read several articles and ebooks on day game but never actually tried it, until last week. There’s something intimidating about approaching a woman without a drop of alcohol and the assumption that you’re interrupting her day. At least at a bar or club, you know a woman is there to socialize. With day game approaches, you never know if she’ll be receptive to your approach. So how did my first day game approach go? Read on to find out.
In this nine minute video PUA Mehow describes mixed sets and something he refers to as solo winging. Solo winging is when two or more pick up artists open various sets by themselves to ultimately merge them into a large group. This strategy decreases your chances of being rejected by having multiple sets in one group. If one woman shuts you down, just turn around and game another. Check it out.
Much like a male peacock will display his feathers to attract a female, peacocking in the pickup artist community involves wearing unique clothing and accessories to attract women. Pickup artists, or PUAs, have been attracting women by peacocking ever since the world’s most famous pickup artist, Mystery, coined the phrase a few years ago.
Successful peacocking encourages women to approach you instead of the other way around. If you’ve done peacocking correctly you’ll just have to walk through a club and camp out while women take turns getting to know you. Because you’ve separated yourself from everyone else with edgy clothes and accessories, women will want to figure you out. Is he a rockstar? An actor? But, peacocking takes careful planning to be done properly.
Mystery has his own type of peacocking style. He can usually be spotted wearing a furry black top hat, large goggles, black nail polish, eyeliner, and a black trench coat. But not everyone can pull that look off. The goal of peacocking is not to look ridiculous but to create an extension of your personality through carefully selected accessories and clothes that will entice women to approach you.
So how can you peacock without looking like an idiot? Here are the five best ways to peacock. Read the rest of this entry »
I spent this past weekend in the city of sin, Las Vegas. It was my first time partying in Vegas and it definitely didn’t disappoint. People come from all over the world to party in Vegas so it’s obviously one of the finest places to practice your game. The ratio of women to men had to be something like 3 to 1. But to be completely honest, I didn’t open a single set the entire weekend because I didn’t have to. Women were approaching me the every night. In a city where I thought I’d be dwarfed by the competition, I was amazed how many women were approaching me. Usually, I’m lucky if one woman approaches me in a night. Read the rest of this entry »
Johnny Wolf brought up a good question on his blog. He asked, “Why would a woman want to sleep with you?” It’s a simple question that I’m sure most men have trouble answering. It’s probably something many men have never thought about in the first place. Read the rest of this entry »
Indicators of interest, or IOIs, are any signals women display, consciously or not, that show she’s interested in you or what you have to say. Most IOIs are pretty straightforward, but many can go unnoticed or misread. It’s obvious a woman is interested in you if she gives you her number, hugs you, goes out of her way to talk to you or smiles at you constantly, but there are several subtle cues that inexperienced guys don’t pick up on. Here’s a quick list of subtle IOIs. Read the rest of this entry »
Every month I’ll be giving myself assignments to improve my game. I’ll aim to push myself outside of my comfort zone to overcome my sticking points. I’ll set goals at the beginning of each month aiming to improve certain areas of my game. At the end of each month I’ll report back on what I accomplished and learned. I’m hoping everyone reading these reports will be able to learn from my experiences as I have from reading other PUA blogs and forums.
Yes, I know May is almost half over but give me a break. I’ve been busy working, training, and trying to improve my game with whatever little time I have. Because of my limited time, I’ll be keeping my objectives for this month short and simple.
Cultivate an optimal state of mind.
Maintain relationships.
Being a pickup artist means having every facet of your life in order. To me that means being healthy, staying optimistic, confident and most importantly, having an optimal state of mind. I haven’t been as efficient these last few months in regards to my goals. I have several goals besides becoming better with women that require my attention. This month I’m going to try to refocus my time and energy to reach my goals.
The second part of my assignment seems petty but is actually quite important. I’ve been neglecting a few women in my life that deserve more attention. I guess I forgot that there’s more to the game then just approaching women and closing.
So stay focused and reconnect with some women in my life is my May assignment. Come back in a few weeks to see how it goes.
I read a post on Lifestyle Dating Blog about having an abundance mentality and thought I could expand on the subject. An abundance mentality, in terms of PUA, means you wholeheartedly believe there are plenty of women out there that deserve your time and energy.
Becoming a pickup artist isn’t like riding a bike. You don’t learn a few things and are able to perform them the rest of your life. Sure, you might know what to do, but knowing and doing are two different things. Becoming a pickup artist takes consistency and commitment. When I first started, I was on fire. I was approaching women with no fear. My friends would sit in awe as I approached hottie after hottie. I felt like I had the secret playbook for attracting and seducing women. I had confidence but that slowly transitioned into something detrimental. I started to get cocky, and lazy. After a while, I stopped approaching women and started giving myself excuses for not doing so. I would think, “She’s kinda ugly. I’ll Pass.” or “She looks like a bitch.” But all I was doing was making excuses. There’s no excuses when it comes to picking up women. Like Steve Carell said in The 40 Year Old Virgin, if you don’t use it, you lose it.
I spent this past weekend in the city of sin, Las Vegas. It was my first time partying in Vegas and it definitely didn’t disappoint. People come from all over the world to party in Vegas so it’s obviously one of the finest places to practice your game. The ratio of women to men had to be something like 3 to 1. But to be completely honest, I didn’t open a single set the entire weekend because I didn’t have to. Women were approaching me the every night. In a city where I thought I’d be dwarfed by the competition, I was amazed how many women were approaching me. Usually, I’m lucky if one woman approaches me in a night.